Build the trust, respect, and intimacy that lead to great love relationships
Marriage Counselling and Couples Therapy in South Delta and White Rock
Do you feel stuck in a never-ending cycle of frustration, conflict, and repeated patterns? Do you feel unheard and unseen by your partner? Are you trying to navigate a new life stage, stressful job, or crisis with your partner without success?
The most fulfilling relationships are founded in trust, respect, a willingness to be vulnerable and honest, and the feeling that you are truly seen and heard. Unless you are among the lucky few, it takes work. Love relationships are complex, and the factors influencing them are many: from your family of origin, to the surrounding culture, to your unique life experiences. We all have different needs and ways of protecting and expressing ourselves, and it takes tolerance, empathy and understanding to meet our partner where they’re at without judgement.
Learn how to listen, resolve conflict, and deepen your connection
Using a range of therapeutic approaches, that include the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of Couples Therapy and Relational Life Therapy, I’ll help you identify your relationship goals and the patterns and issues that are getting in your way of achieving them. I’ll ask you and your partner important questions such as:
- Why are you in this relationship?
- What does it mean to you?
- What are you willing to change to help the relationship succeed?
I’ll provide a safe space in which you can listen deeply to each other and resolve conflict and hurt. When you can truly hear each other’s needs, fears, and hurts with respect and love, it enables you to understand and support each other, and deepen your connection. It leads to change.
In our sessions together I’ll help you learn how to:
- Resolve conflict
- Communicate with understanding and respect Increase the intimacy in your relationship
- Identify and manage the family of origin issues or developmental trauma that may be affecting your relationship style
- Increase your affection and sexual satisfaction
- Commit to each other in a new and deeper way
Accountability is an internal desire. We cannot make our partner change, or make our partner see, anything that they are not ready to accept.
Before your first appointment:
- Please download and read the article, “How to Get the Most from Couples Therapy.”
- In addition, each partner should complete a copy of the “Couples Questionnaire”, by downloading it to your computer, filling it out and sending it to Shelley at info@abetterlovecounselling.com, or bring it to the first session (in-person sessions).
Ready to build a BETTER LOVE?
If you are ready to move beyond your relationship problems and create a better love, I offer both in-person and online counselling services, with offices in Ladner and White Rock, BC. Clients come to me from Ladner, Tsawwassen, North Delta, South Surrey, Richmond, and Langley – and meet me online from anywhere.
Appointment lengths and rates are shown in the first step of the online booking process.